A Şeker Bayramı moment in Provincetown


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Constantinople settings and traits (1926) Şeker Bayramı (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Even the moon and star in Provincetown have an Islamic look these days, ok, just kidding, it’s a Zemanta photo, but I am sure it is true some part of each month (Photo credit: romeroleo)

While walking the dog the other morning in Provincetown (sleepy puppets in tow on my mantle, tabi canım) I was studiously conducting my usual eavesdropping activity.

Now this activity could more *positively* be referred to, Celebi (the modernist puppet) tells me, as the collection (and curation) of my most favorite and surprising overheard snippets from fellow walkers, bikers, drivers and porch-sitters along Commercial Street.

At times, there can be some hum-dingers, but today I will focus on one of those, as it led to an interesting occurrence, let me tell you how this all unfolded.

Kenne unfurled her judgemental puppet-hanky at this point, while scolding, me “one should not listen to another’s conversation, you know, m’lady.”  I ignored the unfurling (brushing it off of my face) as well as the scolding.  “Kenne,” my retort began “I think it was the very basis of the Ottoman court, the listening in to others’ conversations, don’t you?”

As we traded snappy sentences that morning on the way to Wired Puppy for my daily cup of gourmet coffee, I slowly edged closer and closer to the rambler roses – letting her get caught up in them as her Isadora-Duncan-like trailing scarf became entwined in the thorns.

Feeling only a bit badly, as I knew she would, with her puppet magic, catch up to me, I resumed thinking on my “early exposure to Islam” series of blog posts – as these posts are the basis for the first part of the memoir I am writing about this cross-cultural road trip otherwise known as my marriage.

So there I was, at 6:30 a.m., being walked by walking my dog by the scads of hot pink rambler roses, trying to remember how the ways in which Islam and the Middle East in general first became known to me – years before meeting M.  – when I caught a fabulous snippet of conversation while dodging the early morning traffic.

Provincetown natives will recognize the challenge of navigating Commercial Street with a dog during high season when bikes abound. Tiryaki, my narcoleptic, opiate-addicted puppet often intones what sounds like a surfer prayer as I cross the street, saying “dude, may the wave of energy make way for us” before taking another toke on his long, intricate mother-of-pearl-inlaid pipe before slipping back into ignorant bliss.

True to form, the biking population of early morning Provincetown was burgeoning – and I heard two bikers carrying on a conversation that must have been about a recent trip to Egypt.  A dark-haired, bespectacled Izod-shirt wearer called out to his friend – a man in drag at this early hour – saying “Egypt is hot as hell in summer, but add Ramadan onto that and hell is not a strong enough word for that trip.”

“Woo-hoo,” Karagoz, the oppositional-defiant puppet cried out, “now THAT’S some controversial action there – and said on on Şeker Bayramı (Eid-al-Fitr) no less!”  Cartwheeling around with charisma, he screeched after the bicyclists “Atta boys, shake it up!:” Kenne held her head high, grimacing in silence at this behavior.  Although she is the Queen of Maintained Honor and Ladylike Behavior (amongst other titles), she doesn’t even bother with Karagoz most of the time.

The veiled ladies I saw that morning looked akin to this young lady (Photo thanks to Shutterstock footage, click photo for link)

In my haze of grief and disconnection from the Turkish press, I had forgotten it was Şeker Bayramı – marking the end of Ramadan.

Not that we celebrate that, particularly, although I get lots of people attempting to be “culturally competent” in asking me about it at work.  M. usually at least notes the presence of the day, if nothing else, and tells stories about the holiday in his youth when he would visit his elders and get a sweet treat.

Apparently, I have learned, even secular Turks who rarely (if ever) went to mosque celebrated this holiday.  I was not, however, thinking about Şeker Bayramı, I was thinking about what those men had said.  After all of my recent thinking on how the commons should be constructed in a globalized, multi-religious world, the tip of the yarn of that yelled out comment led somewhere that my brain wanted to follow.  Although I valiantly craned my neck forward to catch more of their quickly-whizzing-away conversation, I lost it – but what I didn’t lose actually really and truly surprised me.

As I turned my head back to our dog, crestfallen at missing a listening-in moment, what I saw on the sidewalk coming my way couldn’t have shocked me more.  It was TWO LADIES IN VEILS – they were swiveled back towards the apparently anti-Egyptian men now far down the street on their bikes – and boy were they hoppin’ mad. I can only assume that they had heard the comment and were upset.  The ladies were engaged in hot, impassioned conversation in what sounded to me like an Eastern European language – it wasn’t Turkish or Arabic.  Now,. these were not the chador-draped Saudi Arabian ladies of our stereotyped imagination, rather the kerchief-heads carved ladies so common in Turkey, but still, it was a first for me in Provincetown, of all places.

Kenne, the Queen of Manners, perked up at the prospect of my bad behavior, and proceeded, at that very moment, to give me a hard and fresh slap to bring me back to attention. “DON’T,” she snarled, “stare at these foreign ladies, m’lady, and I do apologize for slapping you, but you are really staring, and you don’t want them to feel out of place – although indeed – they are QUITE out of place even in this live-and-let-live town.”

Gathering myself together, I stooped down to pick up my dog’s poop before heading for my original coffee destination.  “Surely,” I said to the puppets around me (who were all perched like tall Mardi-Gras mask feathers on my back, staring at the veiled ladies going the other way) “I am seeing things.”

Later, as I walked back home on the beach with my extra-large cafe latte and my seagull-happy dog, lo and behold, there were those same ladies, dressed in modest Islamic gear, with greyish-white simple scarves covering their hair.  Clearly out for a morning walk just as I was. Were they tourists? Probably.

Why Muslims in Provincetown – a town often best known for what some might call alternative lifestyles and loose morals in some quarters.  Maybe that is my own stereotype about what Muslims may or may not want to see – I mean look at Postmodern Muslima who openly blogs about her relationship to sex as well as her Muslim faith.  Or, for that matter, check out Deonna Kelli Sayed, who writes about similar matters here.

Regardless, those headscarves that can be so controversial in Europe and parts of the Middle East, well, they have hit Provincetown as well…we are truly a globalized world even out here on the Cape Tip.  I wonder if they wear burquinis.  That thought even got me thinking back to my guerrilla theatre escapades in 2004-2006 on the beaches of Bodrum.  Perhaps not the MOST respectful writing on people who choose to wear the hijab, but if you read all of those posts, you may sympathize with me.

That morning left me (and the puppets) with a lot to think about.  What do we care if veiled ladies walk in Ptown? What does it mean? Do we have to analyze everything (yes)?  What does this latest drip of globalization mean for the whole melting candle?

Faced with these questions and more – not to mention some apparent homesickness for their beloved Ottoman court in Bursa, those puppets, well, they have retreated to their normal what-to-do-when-confused activity – spin Sufi-style, en masse, on the wooden lazy Susan on the center of the table.  It’s whirring away, so we are sure to have more posts on veiling soon enough.

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Grieving differently in Provincetown: Ottoman space invaders take the Cape tip


One of the Ottoman Space Invaders after dominating the Bay Beach with her magical umbrella (beware the tip)

When I last left you, I had just finally sat up, literally and figuratively, from some phase of grief after my Dad’s death. What got me to sit up was the idea of making a fabulous, over-the-top costume for Provincetown’s Carnival.

An accidental drop of the local newspaper, the Provincetown Banner, had revealed that this year’s Carnival theme was “Space Odyssey.” And that was it. It had to be done. The puppets screamed a phrase through my ears from one side to the other – “Ottoman space invaders.”

It turns out that all Ottoman space invaders (sans canines) have turquoise sparkle-toes!

Firing up the jets of my Internet engine, Safiye Rakkase (the vainglorious dancing girl puppet) and I scoured the web for inspiration – sending away for 12 yards of silver tissue lame fabric at $2 a yard, a Venetian-style silver mask, 6 dozen silver Mardi Gras beads and a large, three-person silver umbrella (as the forecast indicated rain was in the future of the Space invaders).

The Ottoman Space Invaders give a shout-out to Mr. Spock

As soon as M. arrived back home on the Fast Ferry from Boston for the weekend – I made my way into town in search of glitter. What better place to look for glitter than in Provincetown’s West End? In addition to glittery Pinwheels and a turquoise-toe manicure, I slipped into the famous House of La Rue for some turquoise face glitter (to go around my eyes under the mask, and all along any skin still showing in the midst of all of that lame.

In case people didn’t automatically recognize them as such, the Ottoman Space Invaders made a sign in Ottoman green, tabi canim.

Dressed in a chartreuse kaftan, coordinating turban, MAC dark lipstick and silver flip flops, I made quite a female entrance into that bastion of Gay male dress up and/or drag preparation – but I was tolerated and indeed, the gentlemen were quite gracious (even if I didn’t buy the turquoise-sequined hot pants that caught my attention (would have been fabulous under my silver lame toga – but hot, I reasoned). Soon, I had all that I needed for my costume – and felt heart-warmed when M. broke out his artistic talent to craft a rocket pack for himself – and for our dog.

Ottoman space invader ladies do not wear veils in the 20th and 21st century sense – rather – they have pinwheels in place of their veils!

With “Space Odyssey” as the theme for this year’s Carnival celebration of life – the hardware store overstocked on silver-colored tape, mylar wrapping paper and all manner of plumbing and exhaust piping that could be made into rockets and the like. Preparations went on for days around town – and numerous space-related dioramas appeared on porches and low-slung rooftops overnight.

On the morning of Carnival, carousers could be heard all around town at all hours – but only a little in our quiet neck of the woods. For us, though, it was Safiye Rakkase who was shaking her booty (along with the dog) to space-themed disco since 3 a.m. We reasoned that it was going to be a long day…and by 7 a.m. when we walked the dog – we saw that that Commercial Street was already abuzz..with aliens of all kinds. Green-wigged and antenna-wearing aliens, aliens in underpants only (is that really a costume?), rubber cone-head masks and a few folks as way into it as I was.

The Ottoman Space Invaders met another interesting species – Space Bears!

When the time came, I departed the house fashionably late – having added a last minute brainchild of a pinwheel where my veil would have been – and descended the stairs in slow glory to the applause of my neighbors. In the end, I received not one but two of the highest honors a mere plebeian such as I could receive – numerous beads thrown at me by drag queens dressed to the nines – and many requests for pictures with the tourists.

It all brought a smile to my face, and while it likely would have somewhat horrified my Father, I think he would have understood the fun of it as well. After all, he was known to dress for Halloween each year, Esma the hippie puppet reminds me.

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The puppets get worried, up Turkish tea infusions


During the nights, the little cenghi puppets (a.k.a. the little dancing ladies in English) plied me with herbal Ada Çayı so I could sleep…but there was an extra empty glass there, and I think it was my Father’s glass. I miss him.

After our return from Turkey (you can read about how the puppets handled that right here, over there and just down there as well) and my Father’s passing, there was a month of fog and gloom – and just general stuck-ness.

Even Karagöz moped a bit, but just a bit.

And then, when the family could gather, there was a wonderful memorial service, and somehow I felt I could move on again. And move I did, with the dog, right on down to our nest-shack in Provincetown. I just got the heck on out as fast as I could – leaving M. behind to work between long weekends with us.

But, I found I had moved on to not much – my mind wasn’t capable of much.  It just felt like being a recluse, living in seclusion and shutting down.  It wasn’t, Perihan Hanım (my fairy godmother puppet) reminds me, “feeling like” doing that, it was just all I could do.  And

For the first three weeks, I spent my days alternately staring at the white-raftered ceiling (which turns from sunny white to neon blue at dusk) and the ever-changing blue-grey-green bay out of my window.

Books left for my summer reading lay limp in the humidity, untouched by human hands that could (but didn’t) bring them into mind-life.

The laptop remained encased in a click-closure.

The freshly made bed was untouched – in favor of the couch and the breeze by that night-light window.

Food carefully picked for a healthy retreat remained in the fridge, passed by for cranberry juice and crackers with many glasses of rabbit’s blood Turkish Rize Çayı from the by-now very worried little chorus of dancing ladies during the day – and herbal Ada Çayı during the nights.

“We think,” the ladies said in quiet, demure unison, “that perhaps you would have felt better sooner if you had followed the Turkish burial tradition – the one about three days?” Sighing and wringing their hands, the little cenghi then felt badly, saying “we apologize, we know this is not very culturally sensitive of us, we know you have a different tradition, but we overheard this in M.’s subconscious mind.”

“I agree, little ladies,” I demurred, while blowing on the tea glass between my fingertips, “you may be onto something there, but I am glad we waited for the family to be around in order to go through it all together.”  Feeling a slight bit of closure, I stood upright if for not other reason than to just move – to change things up a bit. And as I did, a copy of the Provincetown Banner newspaper M. had picked up the previous weekend fell to the floor.

And as if the universe had offered me an invitation, there it was, an announcement about Provincetown’s Carnival 2012 – with “Space Odyssey” as the theme. And, instantly, I knew what I had to do. I knew it in phrase form before the vision appeared in my mind screen – the phrase just tumbled out of my mouth to the dog’s curious ears – “Ottoman Space Invaders.” Safiye Rakkase, the vainglorious dancing girl puppet, jumped up onto the coffee table with a banshee scream of joy – “FINALLY – she said – COSTUMES TO MAKE!”

As if a puppet myself, controlled by Safiye Rakkase’s glimmering puppet strings, I sat up on the couch, googled “silver lamé fabric” and immediately ordered 12 yards before heading out to take a walk in the night sky.

To be continued…

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